“What does she have that I don’t?”
“Of course she’s successful, she <fill in the blank>”
“I could never be like her”
Do any of these questions sound familiar? Do they dance around in your head like the mean kid in grade school, telling you that you’re not good enough?
“I can’t do this.” “I’m not strong enough.” “I’m not outgoing enough.” I’m not hip enough.” Regardless of where we are in our journey, we all have those doubting thoughts enter our minds. What we do with these thoughts makes all the difference in the world.
Think back to when you were unstoppable. Five years old? Seven? Fifteen? No one could steal your dreams or convince you that your dreams were ridiculous. You didn’t care that someone was different than you. You didn’t compare. You were simply you.
What’s your dream now? Take an inventory. What would your ideal life look like? Travel? Retirement? Philanthropy? Home ownership?
Let me tell you – it’s all possible. Whatever your dream. The difference between those who achieve their dreams and those who see them as out of reach comes in what you do with those words in your head. Do you allow them? Do you listen to them?
I encourage you to draft a vision for your life. Really. Do it. Grab a pen and notebook, and start writing. What’s your fairytale life?
Next, identify one next action to get you there. Whether you use a proprietary program to help you write your life vision, goals and actions to get you there doesn’t matter. What matters is that you KNOW WHERE YOU WANT TO GO. Doesn’t even matter if you know yet how you’ll get there.
Keep your life vision at top of mind. Review it daily. BELIEVE it. And begin to act on it. One step at a time. You’re brilliant and can be who you want to be. When those negative doubts creep in, remind yourself of your vision. The bigger purpose for your actions.
Stop comparing yourself with people who you think are better than you or have more than you. Sure, watch successful people. Learn from them. Remember that we see the successes but we don’t see the struggle it took to get there. Everyone has their highlight reel that we see on social media. What people don’t share is the struggle. The tears. The doubt. They have it, believe me. But they choose to overcome it and act anyway.
Know that you are unique. You have strengths, capabilities, and personality traits that make you who you are. Be proud of them. Showcase them. Grow them. And don’t ever make excuses for who you are. This quote hit home for me when I was struggling. Hope it helps you too:
“Comparison will strip you of power, grace and influence. Each person is unique. How, then can you possibly compare unique to unique? You can’t, and why you try, you annihilate your brilliance.” Amy Larson
Be your best self. Wishing you the life of your dreams. One step at a time.